Life Strategy Consulting, Family Constellation and Systemic Constellation are powerful methods that allow us to picture unconscious dynamics. Creating a visual representation of that which is intuitive will establish profound and lasting solutions.
THE FUNDAMENTAL PHILOSOPHY
The people in every group, be it formal or informal, have obvious connections – parent/child, employer/employee, partners, etc. What is more difficult to see is that the members of each “system” are also bonded on a deeper level, one that we don’t consciously notice. On this level, we function like cells of an organ, working furiously to keep our system, as we know it, intact. A deep loyalty to the system drives us to compensate for everything that might unbalance it. Constellation work allows us to untangle ourselves from these unconscious – and sometimes unhealthy – loyalties.
You ignore that a part of your heart is still bonded to your first love and that you’re not 100 percent free to explore a new relationship. Constellation work will help you to acknowledge what you had and release the former partner with love.
As an eager new manager, you have a hard time with the senior executive who is still hanging on to the “old” ways of doing things. However, you haven’t found common ground with the overly-eager department heads either. By not voicing your conflict, you think you’re making things better, but on a deeper level this conflict can poison the success of the company. Instead, you can find a way to acknowledge and honor the others for what they contribute
When a loved one dies, you might close your eyes to the pain because you’re told that “life must go on”. Instead, mourn for an appropriate period of time – which is different for each of us – and then say goodbye, letting the person go without feeling that you have betrayed them
These behaviors happen out of loyalty and an innocent belief that we can save the system. However, the constant avoidance blocks our ability to thrive and creates unhealthy patterns.
HOW DOES IT WORK?
In a group setting, an individual chooses other participants to represent certain family members and places them, intuitively, throughout the room. By their positioning, the representatives symbolize the dynamics – both hidden and evident – within the family system. Working with this “family”, the facilitator repositions the members, restoring respect, dignity and love, especially to those who’ve been excluded or forgotten. As reconciliation is achieved, the genuine love and strength in a family can begin to flow. Each person at a constellation, whether participant or observer, can experience the profound effects of this change.
It’s important to remember that we have many family-type dynamics in our lives. Our co-workers, superiors and employees are a family of sorts. The other members of our religious congregation are our faith-family. Our neighbors create a community-wide family. Constellation work is a method that is universal and will work with almost any type of “family”.
Where does this method come from… and where is it going?
In his decades of working with families, German psychotherapist Bert Hellinger observed repetitive structures and patterns which ultimately lead to the success or failure of relationships. Hellinger discovered a way to create “pictures” of the unconscious scripts of these families, and he learned that establishing certain orders in the mock family would impact the system. Although others had used role playing and similar techniques before, he developed this unique format and now, in his eighties, is still teaching all over the world.
During the 20 years since Hellinger named it Family Constellation, the method made its way through many different fields of use besides family therapy. The fastest growing adaptation of Systemic Constellation in Germany occurs in the business world. It is exceedingly helpful in revealing subtle structures and group dynamics in large companies and other business teams.
WORKSHOPS
You’re a proactive person. Before you run, you stretch. Before you make an important decision, you ask trusted advisors. Before you start your day, you grab a cup of coffee. You know what you need to be – and do – your best. This workshop is for you.
If you have a specific issue that you want to address, the workshop setting is ideal. Making use of the other workshop participants, we “picture” the system in the room. The person who is working on an issue is guided by the trainer to select representatives for the important figures in their life and place them, intuitively, throughout the room. The picture that is created, and the experience of the representatives in their roles, let us investigate the dynamics and structures.
With the aim of re-establishing a nourishing foundation, the trainer guides the representatives to better places in the room. With frequent acknowledgement, this reintegration allows the people to move into a healthier constellation. In the final setting, the group experiences a feeling of relief and peace. The image of the new system can begin to unfold its power.
Workshops are generally scheduled for 1-5 days, depending on the number of participants. Each process takes about 60 minutes.
For a list of future workshops, check the Upcoming Events page (link) . To schedule a workshop in your area, call 414-351-0152 or email to GHGelina@SBCGlobal.net.
ONGOING STUDY GROUPS
In addition to the advantages of Systemic Constellation Workshops and Life Strategy Consulting, Ongoing Study Groups provide a cohesive collection of people who will grow individually and together. They are genuinely interested in self-exploration and growth, and are creative and open minded. Some join for the social aspects and to meet new people. Others seek guidance or want to learn to guide.
If you find yourself asking the same questions, dealing with the same issues or feeling “out of whack” but without a specific reason, a study group can help you to rebalance and give you the steps to make the change you seek. Opportunities for growth include the chance to:
-
Explore yourself
-
Experience yourself in relationship to other people
-
Deepen your understanding of the systemic approach
-
Experience your empathy for others
-
Increase your awareness of group dynamics
Ongoing Study Groups are held one evening a month for six months.
Where: The next study group will be held in Glendale, Wisconsin
When: Beginning in January, six Tuesday evenings from 7-9:30 p.m.
Size: 6-12 people
Fee: $250
For a list of future study groups, check the Upcoming Events page (link)
For more information, call 414-351-0152 or email to GHGelina@SBCGlobal.net.
LIFE STRATEGY CONSULTING
Life Strategy Consulting provides you with practical guidance and nurturing understanding in a supportive environment. In sessions lasting 30 to 50 minutes we work to deepen your understanding of yourself and help you make real progress in addressing and achieving your goals.
Life Strategy Consulting:
-
Is designed for people who want to improve
aspects of their lives -
Helps you build on your strength and locate your weaknesses
-
Focuses on your whole life: past, present and future
-
Looks at the group dynamics that you are a part of: work, team and family
-
Honors you as the ultimate expert on your life
What are the benefits of this work?
-
Increased satisfaction with who you are
-
Stronger self-esteem
-
Confidence and ease when dealing with others
-
More clarity about your goals
and how you want to achieve them -
Stable relationships with your partner, friends,
family members and co-workers -
More satisfaction in your work
-
Increased communication skills
Life Strategy Consulting includes tools from a variety of approaches including Gestalt, Systemic Constellation, the provocative approach and more.
Eventually you will be able to overlook your personality and situation, like watching traffic from a watchtower.
You’ll know where you are and where you want to go.
You will be able to access your own resources to realize your intention.
To arrange a free consultation,
call 414-915-3741
or e-mail me GHGelina@sbcglobal.net
To download a brochure go to LSC-Download